I have said "I just don't care anymore" about a lot of things going on in my life. But is it really true?
I said I didn't care about the last few days of school, but I did.
I said i didn't care that my pride was wounded, but I do.
I said I didn't care about the outcome of the conversation, but I did.
I even said that I didn't care about "it" at all anymore... What a load of untruths.
Why do we feel the need to not let others know how sucky they made us feel? We put on the tough guy act and deal with our emotions on our own. We don't let our hurts known for fear of being laughed at. We, or maybe I should say I, want validation that we have a right to feel like we do....and we do!! No one can say the way we feel is wrong. Well, they can, but it isn't true! We handle it by ignoring, being rude to the other party or just plain avoidance. I personally like the avoidance choice :)
*please note i am writing this more for myself and about myself at the moment*
What do we have to lose by saying, "you may not have meant it, but what you said, or didn't say, hurt me". I mean, we always tell our kids to "use your words". When do most of us lose that boldness and turn into emotional balls incapable of communicating when we get hurt? When did I turn into that person?
I said I didn't care about the last few days of school, but I did.
I said i didn't care that my pride was wounded, but I do.
I said I didn't care about the outcome of the conversation, but I did.
I even said that I didn't care about "it" at all anymore... What a load of untruths.
Why do we feel the need to not let others know how sucky they made us feel? We put on the tough guy act and deal with our emotions on our own. We don't let our hurts known for fear of being laughed at. We, or maybe I should say I, want validation that we have a right to feel like we do....and we do!! No one can say the way we feel is wrong. Well, they can, but it isn't true! We handle it by ignoring, being rude to the other party or just plain avoidance. I personally like the avoidance choice :)
*please note i am writing this more for myself and about myself at the moment*
What do we have to lose by saying, "you may not have meant it, but what you said, or didn't say, hurt me". I mean, we always tell our kids to "use your words". When do most of us lose that boldness and turn into emotional balls incapable of communicating when we get hurt? When did I turn into that person?
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